Yes, Daniel loves Duck Dynasty...
On to bigger and better things... :)
Last Thursday, Daniel and I got to go on a real-to-life actual date! Uh yeah... awesome! We usually get 2 dates a year - one for my birthday and then usually a random day sometime throughout the year. Since my birthday was in December, its been about 4 months since we have been alone together. We always have at least one child with us... always.
So we went to a concert in Birmingham... and nope, for all you local folk, that is not a misprint - we did not go see John Mayer in Tuscaloosa (for all you non-locals, Tuscaloosa is on the way to Birmingham). We got to see one of our most favorite singers ever - Chris Trapper (lead singer of the The Pushstars) in this super tiny venue. It was amazing! There was maybe 20 people there, which I know is crazy, but yeah, him and Jesse Terry sang sets and they talked about each song and we got to chat with them after the show.... one of the best concerts ever. And even better, we got in free b/c we offered to do the merch table. Yay for us.
We didnt get into the bed until 1 AM (and had to be back up at 6 AM)... but so totally worth it!
Daniel did promise to take me to see Gatsby for Mothers Day, since Ive been waiting for it to come out since last year after I read the book, but since we are saving money for the adoption, I dont know.... but I do know that it will most likely be our last day for over a year - once Willow gets here, we dont expect her to leave our side for awhile.
Otherwise, we had a busy weekend full of friends and meetings and school stuff....
Im super tired, but Im here....
Hope yall had a great weekend!
Monday, April 29, 2013
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Wednesday
So either no one is reading or no one cares or no one wants me to know they are reading.... most likely a bit of all 3.... so I guess I will just keep doing what Im doing, at least for now.
So the story continues.... apparently, Wallace's teachers have gotten all huffy and decided to take their ball and go home, but in this case "the ball" is Wallace's communication notebook.
Because Wallace is non-verbal, there is a notebook left in his bookbag every day so the teachers can write how his day went, what happened if he was bad, if he got hurt, etc, etc..... and we also write in it if we notice any behavior changes or if wallace had a bad night, etc, etc.
Apparently they didnt care for what I wrote the other day, so they decided just to ignore us and turn off the communication by confiscating his notebook.... and when Daniel sent a note in his folder yesterday asking where it was, it got confiscated as well.
It actually becomes pretty comical to a point..... until hopefully they realize that it isnt us that they are hurting. Its Wallace. He is the one that benefits from us having this notebook.... makes you wonder, doesnt it?
They still have yet to schedule a time for me to come visit, but at this point, Im thinking that its not even worth the effort.
We are counting down the days to be done. And now, its less than a month.
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In adoption news, we are on day 36 of LOA wait. Still praying for a miracle and that it would come this week so we could travel early.... and so I can show you pictures - such a doll-baby!
We are also down to only needing $7,000-9,000 before we travel.... that is still alot but its slowly coming down so we are rejoicing in that.... (the $2000 difference in numbers is b/c we dont know how much plane tickets will be until we get closer to travel, so hopefully they will be on the lower side.)
Not too much else to post on the adoption... just waiting and fundraising. Once we get LOA, then things will start speeding along again.
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I felt like the kids had been growing lately, so I pulled out the boards that we use to measure their birthday heights and sure enough, all three have grown an inch or more (since August and November)... Gabe is now up to my chin at 8 years old... crazy!
Ok, thats all I got for now... does anyone have any questions?
So the story continues.... apparently, Wallace's teachers have gotten all huffy and decided to take their ball and go home, but in this case "the ball" is Wallace's communication notebook.
Because Wallace is non-verbal, there is a notebook left in his bookbag every day so the teachers can write how his day went, what happened if he was bad, if he got hurt, etc, etc..... and we also write in it if we notice any behavior changes or if wallace had a bad night, etc, etc.
Apparently they didnt care for what I wrote the other day, so they decided just to ignore us and turn off the communication by confiscating his notebook.... and when Daniel sent a note in his folder yesterday asking where it was, it got confiscated as well.
It actually becomes pretty comical to a point..... until hopefully they realize that it isnt us that they are hurting. Its Wallace. He is the one that benefits from us having this notebook.... makes you wonder, doesnt it?
They still have yet to schedule a time for me to come visit, but at this point, Im thinking that its not even worth the effort.
We are counting down the days to be done. And now, its less than a month.
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In adoption news, we are on day 36 of LOA wait. Still praying for a miracle and that it would come this week so we could travel early.... and so I can show you pictures - such a doll-baby!
We are also down to only needing $7,000-9,000 before we travel.... that is still alot but its slowly coming down so we are rejoicing in that.... (the $2000 difference in numbers is b/c we dont know how much plane tickets will be until we get closer to travel, so hopefully they will be on the lower side.)
Not too much else to post on the adoption... just waiting and fundraising. Once we get LOA, then things will start speeding along again.
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I felt like the kids had been growing lately, so I pulled out the boards that we use to measure their birthday heights and sure enough, all three have grown an inch or more (since August and November)... Gabe is now up to my chin at 8 years old... crazy!
Ok, thats all I got for now... does anyone have any questions?
Friday, April 19, 2013
Wow!
Dear people of Wallace's school (which I havent named since this is a "public forum") - I didnt know yall were so interested....
Guess Im more popular than I thought. So what say you, good readers, should I go private with this blog? What would you do?
Have a good weekend!
Guess Im more popular than I thought. So what say you, good readers, should I go private with this blog? What would you do?
Have a good weekend!
Why Am I Not Surprised?
As I tell this story, I feel like I need to remind everyone that Wallace is in a full inclusion kindergarten class and also is perfectly fine physically - he can do absolutely everything Gabe and Emma can do physically (when he wants to!).
If anyone was thinking that we were being overly sensitive to how the school and his teachers treat Wallace, then this may change your mind.
Yesterday, we got a note home from school saying that Wallace had slept for over an hour during the day, not wanted to eat lunch and they hoped he felt better. (I later learned that they couldnt call us to come pick him up b/c he didnt have a fever)
What?
I cant even tell you how angry this makes me or how much this absolutely breaks my heart.
1. He slept for over an hour yesterday during class!!!!! Yall! You would never ever let a student sleep through class for over an hour - please tell me one teacher that would let a student do this! Why did they let him sleep through class, why did they not care, why did they not wake him up and give him something to do? Why - b/c it makes their job easier to have one less kid in their class they dont have to worry about.... ugh, that makes me sick!
There was no reason for him to sleep for over an hour. He was and is not sick..... there is no excuse for letting a child sleep through class. It tells me also that they could care less if he is actually learning anything - hey, he is the special need kid who is too stupid to learn anyway, and he is going to be in a special ed class for the rest of his school-life, why bother wasting our time on him?
Even though Wallace is non-verbal, this is a huge thing he is trying to say. By sleeping in class, he has disengaged and "checked out". This absolutely breaks my heart more than anything. I saw this first hand when I visited his room last year and he was not the same boy we had at home - I wanted to slap his teacher who told me everything was fine. This also means that either they are ignoring Wallace/he is not getting attention or they arent giving him anything to do - which makes me sad and angry. Wallace thrives on attention and having a task - and he can follow directions very well. If he is falling asleep on you, then that means he is seriously bored and is completely disengaging.
And apparently his teachers dont even care.... they see it first hand and would rather him sleep then to actually engage him in learning.... just so sad.
2. He didnt eat lunch so they assumed he was sick.
Im sorry but everyone has their off days.... Wallace made it clear that he didnt want to go to school yesterday morning - he is just like any other kid, but for some reason, his school cannot understand that. Just b/c a kid doesnt want to eat or doesnt eat, doesnt mean anything is wrong with him.... he is just having an off day.
I cannot understand how people who work with children day in and day out can refuse to understand this concept.
3. So yes, because he didnt eat his lunch, they sent him down to the nurse to have his temp taken b/c they wanted to send him home.
Yeah, you read that right - they wanted to send him home b/c he didnt eat his lunch.... after they let him sleep for over an hour.
Anyone want to argue that the school and his teachers actually give one crap about Wallace.
I have a hard time imagining that they send EVERY SINGLE kid who doesnt eat his lunch or doesnt eat that much down to the nurse's office to get their temp taken.... b/c they dont do that at my other kid's school.
Actually, I dont think anyone with any common sense would make the connection: this kid didnt want to eat lunch so they must be sick
Does that make sense to anyone out there? Really?
So yeah, anyone want to tell me that his teachers arent singling Wallace out?
I just dont get what his teachers are doing? Ugh, it makes me sick to know that Wallace has to deal with this every day - and who knows how they are treating him or what they are doing or not doing... since he is non-verbal, we have no way to know.... but you can bet that we are counting down the days until school is out.
I am ashamed that people can act this way and sleep at night.... it is just so sad.
If anyone was thinking that we were being overly sensitive to how the school and his teachers treat Wallace, then this may change your mind.
Yesterday, we got a note home from school saying that Wallace had slept for over an hour during the day, not wanted to eat lunch and they hoped he felt better. (I later learned that they couldnt call us to come pick him up b/c he didnt have a fever)
What?
I cant even tell you how angry this makes me or how much this absolutely breaks my heart.
1. He slept for over an hour yesterday during class!!!!! Yall! You would never ever let a student sleep through class for over an hour - please tell me one teacher that would let a student do this! Why did they let him sleep through class, why did they not care, why did they not wake him up and give him something to do? Why - b/c it makes their job easier to have one less kid in their class they dont have to worry about.... ugh, that makes me sick!
There was no reason for him to sleep for over an hour. He was and is not sick..... there is no excuse for letting a child sleep through class. It tells me also that they could care less if he is actually learning anything - hey, he is the special need kid who is too stupid to learn anyway, and he is going to be in a special ed class for the rest of his school-life, why bother wasting our time on him?
Even though Wallace is non-verbal, this is a huge thing he is trying to say. By sleeping in class, he has disengaged and "checked out". This absolutely breaks my heart more than anything. I saw this first hand when I visited his room last year and he was not the same boy we had at home - I wanted to slap his teacher who told me everything was fine. This also means that either they are ignoring Wallace/he is not getting attention or they arent giving him anything to do - which makes me sad and angry. Wallace thrives on attention and having a task - and he can follow directions very well. If he is falling asleep on you, then that means he is seriously bored and is completely disengaging.
And apparently his teachers dont even care.... they see it first hand and would rather him sleep then to actually engage him in learning.... just so sad.
2. He didnt eat lunch so they assumed he was sick.
Im sorry but everyone has their off days.... Wallace made it clear that he didnt want to go to school yesterday morning - he is just like any other kid, but for some reason, his school cannot understand that. Just b/c a kid doesnt want to eat or doesnt eat, doesnt mean anything is wrong with him.... he is just having an off day.
I cannot understand how people who work with children day in and day out can refuse to understand this concept.
3. So yes, because he didnt eat his lunch, they sent him down to the nurse to have his temp taken b/c they wanted to send him home.
Yeah, you read that right - they wanted to send him home b/c he didnt eat his lunch.... after they let him sleep for over an hour.
Anyone want to argue that the school and his teachers actually give one crap about Wallace.
I have a hard time imagining that they send EVERY SINGLE kid who doesnt eat his lunch or doesnt eat that much down to the nurse's office to get their temp taken.... b/c they dont do that at my other kid's school.
Actually, I dont think anyone with any common sense would make the connection: this kid didnt want to eat lunch so they must be sick
Does that make sense to anyone out there? Really?
So yeah, anyone want to tell me that his teachers arent singling Wallace out?
I just dont get what his teachers are doing? Ugh, it makes me sick to know that Wallace has to deal with this every day - and who knows how they are treating him or what they are doing or not doing... since he is non-verbal, we have no way to know.... but you can bet that we are counting down the days until school is out.
I am ashamed that people can act this way and sleep at night.... it is just so sad.
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Thoughts?
I did a beach wedding on Sunday.... 6 hours away from home... except it rained on Sunday, so it got moved inside.... and b/c everyone in the wedding party was from out of town, it all had to be done on Sunday... we had the rehearsal at 3:30 and the wedding at 4:30... it was crazy madness, but thankfully I had the sweetest couple to work with, and their friends and family were incredible.... but no less, I was on my feet for 8 hours on Sunday, riding for 6 hours on Monday and editing for 12 hours yesterday.... I feel like Ive been run over by a truck - maybe a few times... :)
Anyway...
Yesterday, Wallace came home with a note from school about a play they are doing in his kindergarten class.... this is the gist of what it said...
Our kindergarten class is doing the play "The Wedding of Q & U" (or something like that, I dont remember the exact name).... your child: Wallace , has been given the role of: handing out programs . We have costumes at school for most of the children, but we are asking everyone to wear a white shirt and khaki pants for this very special occasion. Parents are invited to attend.
So... yeah....
what do you guys think?
I would like an outsider's opinion.... how would you feel if your child (special needs or not) came home with this?
Keep in mind that Wallace is in a full-inclusion kindergarten class....
Anyway...
Yesterday, Wallace came home with a note from school about a play they are doing in his kindergarten class.... this is the gist of what it said...
Our kindergarten class is doing the play "The Wedding of Q & U" (or something like that, I dont remember the exact name).... your child: Wallace , has been given the role of: handing out programs . We have costumes at school for most of the children, but we are asking everyone to wear a white shirt and khaki pants for this very special occasion. Parents are invited to attend.
So... yeah....
what do you guys think?
I would like an outsider's opinion.... how would you feel if your child (special needs or not) came home with this?
Keep in mind that Wallace is in a full-inclusion kindergarten class....
Friday, April 12, 2013
Yay!
I gotta take a minute and thank Daniel's mom for buying 80 tickets from our puzzle fundraiser - awesome and so appreciated.... that puts us up to 449 pieces sold - so almost halfway!
And Willow's birthday is coming up this month.... helping to get her family to her would be a great birthday present.
Daniel and I sat last night and figured out all the expenses that we still have and all the savings and money that we are getting soon (tax refund, booked weddings, etc) and we still need about $8-10K before we travel.... not exactly sure how that is going to happen.... but we MUST get to our daughter.
And speaking of Willow... we got our update this morning.... I was so, so excited!
- I cannot wait to show you pictures - she is an absolute doll-baby....
- She is perfectly healthy
- She is living with a foster family and has been living with them for almost a year and has formed attachments to them - this is hugely encouraging and it means she is getting one on one care
- She has already started potty training
- She is walking and walking well
- She is talking in 2-5 word sentences
I felt like we won the lottery this morning when I saw the pictures and read the update.... I cant tell you... I was about to burst.... I feel like I need to cry just to let out some of the emotions that have built up, but work is not the right place for that....
I cannot wait to get to her.... cannot wait.
So, if you could, please pass along this next part to anyone who will listen...
- I am now offering 50% off any wedding package if you book before May.... HUGE discount, if youve ever looked into wedding photography... and 100% of the profits are going to our adoption.
website is www.addietalley.com, photo blog is www.addietalley.blogspot.com and email is talleyimages@yahoo.com
PLEASE please PLEASE help us to make this a reality... :)
Thank you.... :)
We are still on week 3 of our LOA wait... really praying for it to happen in week 5... and once it happens, I get to share pics with yall.... so exciting!
Hope yall have a great weekend!
And Willow's birthday is coming up this month.... helping to get her family to her would be a great birthday present.
Daniel and I sat last night and figured out all the expenses that we still have and all the savings and money that we are getting soon (tax refund, booked weddings, etc) and we still need about $8-10K before we travel.... not exactly sure how that is going to happen.... but we MUST get to our daughter.
And speaking of Willow... we got our update this morning.... I was so, so excited!
- I cannot wait to show you pictures - she is an absolute doll-baby....
- She is perfectly healthy
- She is living with a foster family and has been living with them for almost a year and has formed attachments to them - this is hugely encouraging and it means she is getting one on one care
- She has already started potty training
- She is walking and walking well
- She is talking in 2-5 word sentences
I felt like we won the lottery this morning when I saw the pictures and read the update.... I cant tell you... I was about to burst.... I feel like I need to cry just to let out some of the emotions that have built up, but work is not the right place for that....
I cannot wait to get to her.... cannot wait.
So, if you could, please pass along this next part to anyone who will listen...
- I am now offering 50% off any wedding package if you book before May.... HUGE discount, if youve ever looked into wedding photography... and 100% of the profits are going to our adoption.
website is www.addietalley.com, photo blog is www.addietalley.blogspot.com and email is talleyimages@yahoo.com
PLEASE please PLEASE help us to make this a reality... :)
Thank you.... :)
We are still on week 3 of our LOA wait... really praying for it to happen in week 5... and once it happens, I get to share pics with yall.... so exciting!
Hope yall have a great weekend!
Wednesday, April 10, 2013
Wednesday
I have alot of things on my heart and mind lately... not sure exactly how much I will share and how much I want to share.
I am feeling very restless lately, but also very peaceful... which doesnt make alot of sense.
Thankfully with this adoption, we have the blessing of hindsight from our first adoption. Although I absolutely cannot wait to have my daughter here, I know the upheaval and turmoil that accompanies the joy. I know that when we bring her home our lives will be completely flipped upside down and in those moments it will feel like we are drowning under a frozen pond - wishing for just a small breath, but not able to reach it - banging on the underside of the ice, but not knowing if anyone will risk their own lives/comfort to save yours.
So right now I am cherishing the time when it is quiet (as if its ever quiet at our house!) with only 3 to care for at the moment, with a few extra minutes with my husband here and there, with sleep at night... with time to nest until my littlest is here with me.
Willow's birthday is coming up this month and it makes me want to hold her so bad.... to know my child will be turning two and I will be missing it... it pains my heart... it makes me want to cry... but I have to surrender and know that I am doing all that I can right now.
There are other things that I thought I wanted to talk about, but I am just not brave enough right now... I dont know that i will ever be.
We sent in a request for a update on Willow and new pics... it could be a few days or a few weeks before a response... we are hoping for the few days, but not holding our breaths... :) I am eager to see how much she has changed since the one and only update we have of her.... they change so much and so fast in the first few years... I wonder if I will still recongize her.
Still waiting on LOA/LSC - we hit 3 weeks of waiting yesterday... we really need it to come on week 5 to travel in July. So its actually more of a possibility than it has ever been, but we shall see... nothing is guaranteed and some have waited 12 weeks before. Its all a waiting game of Russian Roulette... some days it is really hard. (LSC is also when we finally get to post a pic for yall to see!)
We are still lacking about $13,000 that we will need to travel. I have no idea where it will come from and it makes my faith waver at times. (I started to type something out here but decided it is better left unsaid).
In the end, it will all be what it will be.... this is where I am lately.... restless but at peace.
Weird, I know.
I am feeling very restless lately, but also very peaceful... which doesnt make alot of sense.
Thankfully with this adoption, we have the blessing of hindsight from our first adoption. Although I absolutely cannot wait to have my daughter here, I know the upheaval and turmoil that accompanies the joy. I know that when we bring her home our lives will be completely flipped upside down and in those moments it will feel like we are drowning under a frozen pond - wishing for just a small breath, but not able to reach it - banging on the underside of the ice, but not knowing if anyone will risk their own lives/comfort to save yours.
So right now I am cherishing the time when it is quiet (as if its ever quiet at our house!) with only 3 to care for at the moment, with a few extra minutes with my husband here and there, with sleep at night... with time to nest until my littlest is here with me.
Willow's birthday is coming up this month and it makes me want to hold her so bad.... to know my child will be turning two and I will be missing it... it pains my heart... it makes me want to cry... but I have to surrender and know that I am doing all that I can right now.
There are other things that I thought I wanted to talk about, but I am just not brave enough right now... I dont know that i will ever be.
We sent in a request for a update on Willow and new pics... it could be a few days or a few weeks before a response... we are hoping for the few days, but not holding our breaths... :) I am eager to see how much she has changed since the one and only update we have of her.... they change so much and so fast in the first few years... I wonder if I will still recongize her.
Still waiting on LOA/LSC - we hit 3 weeks of waiting yesterday... we really need it to come on week 5 to travel in July. So its actually more of a possibility than it has ever been, but we shall see... nothing is guaranteed and some have waited 12 weeks before. Its all a waiting game of Russian Roulette... some days it is really hard. (LSC is also when we finally get to post a pic for yall to see!)
We are still lacking about $13,000 that we will need to travel. I have no idea where it will come from and it makes my faith waver at times. (I started to type something out here but decided it is better left unsaid).
In the end, it will all be what it will be.... this is where I am lately.... restless but at peace.
Weird, I know.
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